Many, many years ago, I was standing at the movie popcorn counter (so long ago the movie was An Officer and a Gentleman) when I began to feel faint. The next thing I knew I was lying on the floor looking up into the concerned face of my boyfriend–a face that in that moment was familiar but that I couldn’t place. I remember working hard to figure out where I was, feeling as if I were making my way back into consciousness and my body. More specifically, I remember scanning and thinking Okay now, which life is this?
And that’s not the most interesting part of the experience. What’s more remarkable was the sense I had just before “waking” that I was in a space of complete calm and serenity. For a nanosecond, and in a nanosecond, every gigantic life question I had was answered, every grand mystery was solved. It was as if the universe unfolded before me, perfect and complete, and I felt no struggle or doubt at all, just a deep and divine understanding of how it all works, how it has worked since the beginning of time.
I was questionless, and therefore, at complete peace.
I felt a similar moment of divine clarity last weekend at Oprah’s The Life You Want Conference. In a magnificent red dress, Oprah opened the conference with two hours of the personal stories that ignited her passion for helping others find and manifest their own calling. If you want to live the highest expression of yourself, she said, you cannot go about it passively. You have to pay attention to your intention. Then she put it more simply.
You become what you believe, not what you wish for.
Boom.
You are living the reality of your beliefs right now.
Boom. Boom.
I heard her, and I wrote it down. And then I sat there in that dark venue surrounded by thousands and thousands of people unable to let go of the thought, unable to hear what came next. Instead I sat there thinking about how true the concept is, how layered, how profound. I thought about how much of my life is joyful, and how my beliefs have shaped that joy. And then I got honest about the time I’ve spent wrestling, how much energy I’ve devoted to the ’round and ’round dance of intention and doubt. What space will open up, I wonder, when I acknowledge and deal with my true beliefs?
What a gift it is to move on through life with the clarity that this is how it works.
You become what you believe, not what you wish for.
Oh, yes.
Thank you, Oprah. Thank you.
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Such true and honest words.
What if we were all “questionless”? I love that idea.
This is a Cheri Huber quote that rearranged my molecules. “The quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention.”
Great wisdom, Cathy.
I do think there is a nice balance in being intentional and letting some things just happen because others (we trust) are being intentional.
What a beautiful thought. Thank you, Brad!
Thank you Cathy!!
Thank you, Jean!